"Conocer el Mundo" / To Know The World

What did you want to be as a little kid? Where did you want to travel? What did you want to learn?

These are three fundamental questions that have guided my entire life up until now and will continue to do so. Two experiences made me think of these questions and reflect on my own life privileges, experiences, and opportunities.

Last weekend on Saturday the 25th of Feb I went with my best friend Susy and Julie, who was visiting me from our program we are in at Brandeis, and we went to the town of Tequila about an hour outside Mexico. We did the tour of the Sauza distillery and the hacienda called La Quinta, made friends with the long time tequila Jimador (the person that cultivates the agave plant) and then went to the tequila university where chemists study and produce tequila. We met a family of tequila experts and one of the nine children was named Joliexte or something similar and called Jolie for short. Chatting with her, I immediately realized how smart this litte eight year old was. Yes, I am going to say it, she reminded me a lot of myself as a little girl- dark hair and eyes, tan, super friendly and sociable and sassy. I said well now you have two new friends who are from the United States and she responds "I have a lot of friends from all over". Taken aback I said oh that is great. Then after a couple hours with her family discussing the value of tequila, tastes, the complexities, we headed out. But before that I asked her, Jolie, Que quieres hacer cuando eres grande / What do you want to do when you are big? She said "Conocer el mundo" after thinking for a second she said it without hesitation. She really impacted me and I would say is on par with my favorite little 6 year old girl in CODENI with whom I have spent a lot of time.

Here Jolie is with Susy and Julie.





My second experience is going with susy this morning, monday at 8:40 (yes that is early for me) to get her passport. Susy is 29 and this was a new experience for her. In my 24 years I have had 3 passports, one stolen one, and the one I have now which is a replacement for the temporary one- a total of 5 that have so many stamps in them representing all the learning, experiencing, and fun I have lived. It also makes me realize my privilege and opportunity that my parents gave me, that I was born where I was born, and am so thankful for all I have. It is funny, when ever I go on a trip I review the essentials- underwear, contacts, address of where I am going, and my passport. When it was stolen in Lisbon in 2007 I felt as if nothing else could be taken from me. Susy is so happy to have it and hopefully soon she will be able to get a visa to come visit me!!

Back to the Basics

This year, 2012, so far I have really been appreciating working with the kids here at CODENI (Colectivo Pro Derechos de la Ninez). The kids come into the office Monday through Thursday and greet all of us Mairos (between Maestro and friend) with a hand shake. After passing through the office they go to education, then workshops and then recreation making the rounds everyday doing homework, a human rights themed workshop then exercise. I usually support with education and the other day I taught a 9 year old how to read a clock. None of this digital stuff I tell ya. He asked me Maira what time is? and I said you tell me, he said I dont know how to read a watch and so I showed him the little hand and the big hand in spanish and he ended up telling me what time it was. Paco's mom Silvia just participated in two focus groups I had with about 6 mothers trying to understand and get more participation from the parents at CODENI in our programs. I have really enjoyed getting to know the mothers are well as they are so emotionally smart though most of them are abused physically or emotionally, they are so strong and really opened up in these groups.

Another great moment this week was with Patricio, the 4th brother of five of an indigenous Huicol family from the high mountains of Jalisco. Patricio, 6 years old, has been caught fighting with other kids, not paying attention and running around with his older brothers, but today he was great. He has three older brothers- Oscar, 14 and Reyes, 12 and Duilio, 8. So his mom was studying with the education coordinator for her high school degree and I took Patricio upstairs in education to the lecture room because I saw him floating around the house not doing anything and grabbed our bilingual english go fish and started playing with him. After explaining the rules and starting to play, he got so excited each time he saw a new picture of an animal with the letter attached. For example M for Mono (Monkey). The excitement on his face was amazing and just being able to have one on one time with a kid with four brothers who never has that time with his parents who work all the time- it was great and so rewarding.

My next two weeks of work- goal number one: spend as much time with the kids as I can!

Traditional Small Town Wedding

On Friday the 4th of February, my friend Olga's (in the green dress) cousin got married in Tonala, a district just outside GDL. It was so much fun line dancing, dancing to banda and seeing the traditions they have. It customary to pin peso bills to the bride's veil and the groom's suit to be able to dance with them, and supposedly that money goes to the honeymoon and they are like gifts. I drove in my friend Yadi's car and of course Susy led the bandwagon as always.

Mazamitla Jan 30th

For Susy's brothers' birthday, Ramon and Ismael, we went to the mountains about 115 kilometers from GDL to the mountains and had all sorts of adventures. Here is the documentation:

Caras de CODENI (Faces of my kids at work)

6 months DONE!

First of all, I am super excited to say I finished my second year graduate field work! After six long, hard, challenging, rewarding, spanish and kid filled months of working fulltime from 9-6:30 I am officially finished with my "applying theory to practice"! Now all I have to finish is my thesis hah!

I have had so many challenges and learned so much in the last 6 months which seems like literally a lifetime, here are some of the top ones:

Challenges/ Learning and Growth:

- Putting up my boundaries with the kids, my coworkers and mostly with myself regarding respect, professionalism, and my values and beliefs.
- Saying NO when the situation calls for it: whether it is not lying on a government evaluation saying we did something when we really didn't or telling a kid the truth and how things actually are.
- Creating a life here in Spanish. period, no more need to be said.
- Having to go to the optometrist and dentist, in another language.
- Living with a daily threat of violence in this country (and being in another culture and constantly reminded I am "American")
- Now knowing the type of organization I want to work for, the type of coworkers and NGO I want to dedicate myself to.
- Being sick with the flu, food poisoning, a cold, tooth pains, hung over,
- Listening to horrible loud Mexican music curtesy of my roommates at 3am. On a weekday.
- Job applications while reading and writing my thesis while working fulltime.
- Internet connection going down. frustrating.

Best Moments
- My family visiting and having Christmas at my apartment.
- THE BEACH (general splendor of the weather included).
- Having men treat you like a princess (yes a little machista but a refreshing change).
- Drinking tequila with my best friend Susy here.
- Teaching a 9 year old how to tell time and hugs from my favorite little 6 year old.
- Feeling comfortable and like I could live here long term. And liking being a short term "ex pat"
- Roommates giving me free prescriptions because they are doctos.
- Skyping with friends and getting mail from all over the world from Thailand to Zimbabwe to Sweden.
- Realizing how many opportunities I have to look forward to.

So a month more of work that I committed to and then some travels around MX in March and back to trying to find a job and traveling more before my benefits run out in 8 months!

AYSO soccer jerseys for my kids in CODENI

In attempts to gain more resources for the kids I work with here in GDL. Check it out: http://inmenlo.com/2012/01/30/devon-davey-and-ayso-region-109-team-to-get-soccer-gear-to-young-players-in-guadalajara/

Devon Davey and AYSO Region 109 team to get soccer gear to young players in Guadalajara

by LINDA HUBBARD GULKER on JANUARY 30, 2012
IN FACES OF ATHERTON,NONPROFIT ORGANIZATIONS,SPORTS

If you travel to Guadalajara, Mexico and happen to see kids playing soccer, you may do a double take. Don’t those jerseys look familiar?

Thanks to efforts coordinated by Devon Davey (second from right), who grew up in Atherton and is now doing Master’s degree field work for the nonprofit organization Codeni in the Mexican city, the soccer uniforms and other gear are being donated by AYSO Region 109, based in Menlo Park.

“We are delighted to support Codeni in their mission to ensure the well-being and development of the youth they work with,” said Michael Molano, Regional Commissioner of AYSO Region 109. “Most children who play in Region 109 are fortunate to have access to world-class soccer gear and facilities, and it is an important life-lesson for these children to share their resources with those who do not have the same opportunities.”

Devon’s interest in social justice issues was first kindled when she was at Menlo-Atherton High School. “With a student body as diverse from race to socio-economic situations as at M-A, it was a great environment to learn about social issues and get involved,” she said.

She got a degree in International Studies with a focus on politics and culture in Latin America at the University of San Francisco. She started her master’s program in 2010 learning the academics and is now putting theories into practice. “I planned and coordinated my seven-month practicum experience based on my interests in human rights, youth, and education, as well as my experience and language abilities that coincide with Latin America,” she said.

Devon discovered Codeni online before she left for Mexico and had several Skype conversations with the organization’s Board President about Codeni’s mission and goals. Now that she’s in Guadalajara, she’s working full time and is fully integrated into the Codeni team, supporting about 120 kids and 60 families.

“I’ve worked on organizational development, developing manuals for the main operational areas (recreation, education, workshops, social work, street outreach, and psychology),” she says. “I also did an operational area evaluation based on successful and sustainable principles of working with children in street situations.”

“The jerseys that AYSO donated allow the kids to feel a part of a team and be officially recognized,” she continues. “They will be used in tournaments and informal recreation spaces the kids participate in. We are constantly looking for donations — financial and material — for our festivals, clothing and gift exchanges, recreational and play activities. Support comes in many forms; everything is welcome.”

Photos courtesy of Devon Davey

Tagged as: AYSO Region 109, Codeni

Little Idiocynracies of Daily Life in Mexico

Last week at work I went to grab a drawing book for a girl who is 8 years old and some dust fell from the book (the house is under construction) and it blew into her eye. I said blink and close your eyes to get it out- she ignored me and said "Maira me prestas tu cabello" direct translation: loan me your hair. um What! Apparently a Mexican tradition to get anything unwanted out of your eye is to rub it with hair, and hers was obviously not adequate. Super cute...of course I lent her my pony tail.

Talking with my Mexican male surgeon roommates the other night about how I have been sick with one thing or another almost the entire time that I have been here, Erik, 28 and a R4 surgeon said and the funny thing is that when I was sick you gave me medicine to feel better. Yeah, very ironic that my three doctor roommates haven't given me a prescription or consultation or anything, but I have taken care of them...typical...though noteworthy is that I don't like taking medicine hence I don't always ask for it.

A joke that the social worker told me today, which was pretty ironic since he is supposed to be empowering the kids we work with, but I laughed anyways. "Que hace un huerfano en una pizzeria?" or what is an orphan doing in a pizzeria? Give up..."pidiendo dos familiares" asking for two families (or family size pizza). Well the translation in English may not be so direct. But it was a funny bad joke.

So our house is under construction at work, Casa CODENI, and we have had workers or abaniles here for the last month running around with cement, bricks, paint and the like. Today, Friday, the kids don't come into the house and when we can into work we heard noises in the morning upstairs where the playroom is. As I listened harder and realized the workers were not where there little construction site is, we realized they were playing with the Foosball table in the playroom. It's hilarious because they are all cheering and laughing and have a great all time. Sometimes its nice to be a kid and have spaces to be creative and enjoy our right to play.

More to come...